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interesting that in spite of the overwhelming number of positive reviews here and on Amazon, there are a lot of negative reviews for any number of reasons. Essentially, the gist of the criticisms is that the book is terribly repetitive and his notion of just "letting go" is very simplistic nonsense. Others accuse if of being a rip off of Eckhardt Tolle's "The Power of Now."

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My father is a 65 year old 11 year old. He used to slam his own face against walls and cry like a baby. He also slapped and pushed me around, lied to cops, had my sister side with him and decide my punishment. Inflict punishments, etc. then he would 100% neglect us...well, me. My sister grew up hating me and telling me to kll myself while being spoiled. My father would bring home food for her & him only, eating it infront of me and mocking me. When i bring up his abuse, he completely denies it and even calls me a liar. I am now an adult suffering from CPTSD among many mental and emotional dys regulated

The interviewer is great, she poses so many interesting and deep questions!

We can’t handle reality, so true!

Nunca habia visto esta entrevista! Las enseñanzas de Michael Singer me ayudaron tanto a cambiar mi forma de vivir que me dedique a hacer una grabación de su libro "La liberación del alma" en español! Espero les pueda ayudar tanto como me ayudó a mi: ruclips.net/video/CjaMG1JXveQ/видео.html

41:28 👏👏👏THANK YOU. Children are deserving of dignity and respect. Otherwise, how do children learn how to be respectful? Who is modeling that for them?

Thank you❤

The older generation should be there to show what is the better way to rear a child. But even then it's hard to see that it actually happens

Congratulations to Lindsay and New Harbinger on this major achievement ❤ This book is a colossal game changer, it explained everything I had been through over the first 40+ years of my life in such a validating way. Dr Gibson's humanity shines brightly from every page. The book should be prescribed reading for all prospective parents. Thank you so much ⚡️🙏🏼

The weight of the family...the sense of duty...thank you for naming this...

So helpful. Exactly my experience. Wow. Thank you.

Wow ❤ Awesome conversation!

Why ‘categories’ or ‘types’??? These parents were children too. You better talk about style or behaviour. The DSM is not a psychlogical bible..

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About to turn 40, late diagnosed this year and my life has become so small. I don't have a shred of self confidence left, I don't feel worthy of having a birthday party, I don't feel like I can accomplish anything... so of course I feel depressed. Just a really awful feeling, I would love to want to socialise but I just want to be alone.

Thank you for the vid , good information for sure. I had an experience once when I took an antihistamine. I had a bad reaction and it ratched up any pain I had to astronomical levels . As someone who has lived with chronic pain for years , that experience has always interested me . Pain that was not caused by thought but by a biological reaction. This experience to me always complicates the topic of pain and my interpretation of my own pain.What is pain and what is sensation. In my opinion there is a dark side to CBT as there is with anything.That is the way it is used sometimes ,to simplify ,to the point of invalidation that place where medication maybe need . (I acknowledge that you stated clearly that was not your position ) . In Australia right now paracetomol and CBT are a blanket treatment for chronic pain . In my opinion CBT has been somewhat hijacked by the Architects of that opiate ban, as a one size cure all . They have not understood that sometimes sensation crosses a threshold into pain even with the most sensitive and practical intervetions .So, pain and it's treatment modalities are also really importantly, intensely political bedfellows.

i didn’t hear any advice for disentangling just more description of problems and answers behind a paywall

Oh thank you Jesus 🙏🔥!! Thank you Holy Spirit for leading me to this video!! 🙏❤️ it makes so much sense my whole life, these type of people are sticking to me like a fly to the light 💡 and my whole life I’m thinking something is wrong with me and I feel exactly how you explain, shocked and without words!!! But actually I was dealing with EIP 🔥 oh my God!!!! The spell broke with knowing Jesus and He delivered me from the evil that attacked me from the traumas that these people caused me and now I have a vocabulary to know what happened to me. Thank you so much!! This is cherry on the top of my healing 😍❤️‍🔥!! Hallelujah ❤️‍🔥

If your father says to you. You better not come home crying to me that you got beat up. Cause if you do I’m whoop your ass then I’m find the one who beat you up and beat him too. It’s like this man and the woman didn’t want me to ask them anything about being or becoming human. I feel like I got treated badly. I got beat with the woman’s hands when she was “teaching” me how to tie my shoes. And of course I couldn’t do it. And she would slap me. Till I could. It didn’t me make me “loved” or liked or it wasn’t it good feeling. Well better yet I KNEW within my little self it won’t RIGHT. I should have took courage like when Cesar(from rise of planet of the apes I think) learns to talk. But you’re little at the time. Them in second grade I meet a friend who I say tie a shoe differently and I asked him if he could show me how to do that. And he did. I thought to myself gee he didn’t get mad or curse me. And I learned how to do it. Then when I was In the 3rd grade the woman(“my mom”) would tell me. “Look and see when your dad is in a good mood so YOU can ask him why does he treat me so badly like his whore slave” And I was thinking to myself should you be doing that. She wanted me to intervene first her. Me little 3rd grade kid.

1. Marry before carry by 26 2. Drop the bad attitude 3. Lose weight

i am not and you are not an "object", but a subject. Strange to me that gross misunderstanding of our nature to be central message to present the book.

Writing a letter can sometimes be effective because the emotionally immature person can read it when they are calmer. As a child, I used to write letters to my mother rather than trying to talk to her when she would lose her temper, scream and act irrationally over quite trivial matters. She would read the letter when she had calmed down and the message concerning my POV on that particular issue seemed to get through. But her overall emotional maturity did not improve and these incidents occurred regularly and still do, even though I'm now in my sixties and she is in her eighties.

such a shame that after all these years my library STILL doesn't have Lindsay Gibson books.

Thank you for the comment on children of divorce and addicts. Another act committed on our children.

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Dr. Sherrie's book is so helpful for those of us raised in toxicity. Another excellent book, especially for scapegoats, is "Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed" by Rebecca Mandeville. Thank you for this interview.

"And I decided I didn't have it in me to mend the fence anymore, which was my job as the fence-mender and the scapegoat." I experienced this too, after my sibling isolated me from the rest of the family, who of course believed her lies. Hearing these words helped me. Thank you.

If you're avoidant, you most likely have said to family members who had a major role in your childhood: "You only accepted me or liked me when I was happy/obedient/emotionless." This one simple statement fits with ALL the core symptoms of avoidant attachment: 1. Being overly self-reliant (and in doing so, you hide your needs, emotions, problems, and acute illnesses) 2. Pushing down anger until it explodes and manufactures the boundaries you crave but can't always ask for 3. Not wanting to burden others with your problems 4. Wanting to fix your own issues to avoid looking incompetent or even getting bullied and teased 5. Numbing out emotions with self-soothing behaviors that are either totally unhealthy or pseudo-healthy (like getting addicted to working out and healthy eating) Remember ALWAYS this process is all about YOU!!! Not him. He is just a catalyst. Consider, he may be your twin flame. Look into that. After he initiated your trauma, you're now left to heal all that comes up. Major advice!!! Listen closely!!! NEVER ever CHASE HIM. He will run further and you will lose yourself more. You are the feminine. You are the divine goddess. You just, be and approve who comes along. It's a yes: you meet my requirements, or: a no, you do not. Be clear on whom you're accepting as a partner and DO NOT settle for less (or you just delay what's meant for you). Accept your struggle, anxiety, fear, sadness. Whatever comes up. It's all human, and in need of your attention. If you push it away, block it, or run from it... You will just have to deal with it later... 1) Put yourself first and foremost! 2) Fall in love with yourself. Be your own dream girl. Glow up and level up. Be the best version of yourself. 3) Rejection is redirection. Embrace the energies of miraculous possibilities. And, Any time you have a painful thought/memory/flashback/worry/belief: 1. Find the belief... 2. Write 11 DISADVANTAGES to having the belief 3. Write 11 ADVANTAGES to having belief If you can NOT find advantages then that’s EXACTLY why you're stuck!! When you finally see both sides... Your mind will STOP thinking about it 'cause it’ll be rewired. So you gotta keep at it, until you find the positive to the negative... And therefore, ultimately rewire your brain!

TL;DR - Do you ever see/hear #EI Parents having a specific communication / #relational flaw of not being able to connect properly *when Parenting is required for growth with advice for tough situations/decisions... That the parent just parrots 🦜 🦜 and shares their own problems or similar stories - instead of offering healthy space to explore & understand the chikdrens problems?* *Pref:)* Is there a characteristic you've noticed from #EIP #EmotionallyImmature #Parents that when a child tries to connect & get supoort w a stressful or challenging issue or dilemma in life... and seek #Parental Guidance & Advice, (and in general, I *get HOW it IS slightly natural* to #relate by telling stories of their own similar experoence w similar situations) *Q:)* But do you notice the #EIP has difficulty putting themselves in their child's shoes, and fail to ask or inquire more about the situation to help the children understand their own problems - from their own perspective??? (and in balance with sn objective p.o.v.) Its like the parent hears a child asking for support, but all they understand is, "It's Story / Sharing Time" and it feels like theyre not really offering advice. Instead it's like some default mode they fall into a selfish mode and it ends up to me feeling like, "Oh you're having problems with something in life??? *Lemme tell you about MMYYYYY problems then....* " 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🪞🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

The reason my brother and me had such different childhood experiences is because our mother treated us completely different. My brother was the favored child. To this day 30 years later, it is still the case.

This was very interesting and helpful, thank you❤

Interesting talk!

Read about MBTI. Personality is inborn. You only have a small portion of the picture. Too bad you are so old and not have come across this yet. Wasted alot of time.

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Thank you

Thank you so much for your wisdom

31:35 For anyone that wanna know what Gibson have to say about grown-up people of emocional immature parents in relationships.

1. Emotional type - tiring to be around, everything gets to them 2. Driven - looks normal, invested in children, workaholics, I value what you do well, lack of emotional intimacy, not great with empathy 3. Rejecting parent - don’t enjoy people, children. Cold irritated personality 4. Passive - standing by, might have empathy, not likely to step in and shield the child from the other parent

This is my partner who i just realized after 13 years has tgese traits.

I’ve been married to an emotionally immature man for 42 years. The pearl box analogy was spot on with our relationship. I’ve often said I feel like I’m on “50 First Dates” in my marriage. He doesn’t seem to connect things or remember things. Especially things about me. This has gone on a very long time and I never could understand it.

25:45. Thank for explaining this dynamic.

I would ask 'and are you willing to feel uncomfortable if it's the service of something you value such as getting close to your boyfriend?'

Loved this. Thank you for sharing this important work ❤

My parents were psychopaths, NOT emotional immature parents. Can't even listen to this.

“Emotional coercion” is manipulation. Lindsey doesn’t like to use the word manipulation because it sounds malignant. But that is exactly what it is and it certainly is awful to experience for the EMP. (43:23)

Amazing amount of information.

You don't get your whole life back unfortunately. But you do get a fuller rest of your life than you would have otherwise.

Civil Rights Icons are Icons because they did something about what bothered them. What if they chose not to be bothered? Would black people still be slaves??